Child psychologists compare the communication of older and younger

I am convinced that no one is more and better suited to a child than his own parents, especially if they not only want, but also know how to communicate with him correctly, that is, to live with him, and not only to treat, that is, to care for, feed and water. Because ideally, education is such a communication between adults and children, in which they can give (and give) to each other the best that they have; they can grow and develop as individuals, solve life problems more successfully. As a doctor, I probably perceive education from a peculiar angle: as a means of protecting the spiritual health of children, parents and the family as a whole. This is what the notes offered to the reader are about.

Child psychologists rightly compare the communication of older and younger in the family with looking in the mirror. What is the meaning of these words?

We often talk about necessity, about luxury, about the joy of human communication. Scientists also talk — and argue! — about the very concept of "the need for communication".

Subjectively, the need for communication is experienced acutely emotionally, as a feeling of loneliness, a desire to share something intimate with a person close to you. And child psychologists are developing a theory according to which the need for communication is based on the desire to know others and oneself.

Isn't it strange: an emotionally experienced desire to share and a rational desire for knowledge and self-knowledge. But let's turn the task to the other end and try to judge the reasons for actions by their final result, by their "product". What is the "product" of communication? The image of a communication partner that develops in our consciousness, and the image of ourselves that is being built, molded by the reaction of a communication partner or a person watching you closely. So it turns out that you can get to know yourself and others by communicating with them, looking into them as in a mirror.

Are parents aware of this (and do they admit it)? Do children understand? I ask a nine-year-old boy: "They say that the apple doesn't fall far from the apple tree. After thinking for a moment, he replies: "It means that with whom you will lead, you will gain from that." A curious turn of thought!

But here's what's interesting: we adults usually use these words to evaluate the negative (at least in our opinion) results of someone else's influence. In our own children, we, as a rule, consider what we like to be the result of our upbringing, and what is not acceptable, we attribute to "bad heredity", the manifestation of "growth difficulties" or illness, the harmful effects of the "street", etc. Even knowing about one or another of our mistakes in education, we attach more importance to our good intentions. As one writer noted, not without irony, we judge someone else's work by the text, but we want our work to be judged by the plan.

But you can also understand parents: no one sets out to raise a child as a bad person. Why are our good intentions not always confirmed by the results, why does the "mirror" child often reflect something completely different from what we expect and want? Why, finally, do neurotic features sometimes appear in this reflection?

Parenthood is not just about having children in the family. This is a special quality of an adult, a new and higher dimension of it. In the desire to have children, a precious human property is manifested with special vividness — to see the future through the prism of our happiness and immortality in children. Less often we think (and if we do, it's as if secretly) that this happiness, like any other, must be suffered. This does not mean any special price, the obligation of suffering. But this means that, except through suffering, the happiness of parenthood is not given to anyone, and, moreover, without this suffering, happiness is not happiness.

...Who at least once, when his gaze rested on the defenselessly naked infant temple, did not catch his breath from the piercing desire to protect the child from everything, hide it in his palms, but at the same moment — and from the fear that this fragility would not withstand the protective touches of our hands? 1xBet Promotional offers for New and Existing Players: List of 1xbet Welcome Bonus Around the World What is the 1xBet Promo Code India and receive a 100% bonus on your 1st deposit, up to €100 for deposits on Wednesdays and Fridays, up to $500 for 20 lost bets, a free bet on your birthday, +10% bonus to winning the express bet. And you’ll love the exclusive 1XBET sportsbook bonus, which is a 100% match on your first deposit worth up to €/$130 or your local currency.